Patrick V. Demay (DeMatio)

Oscoda, Michigan
April 12, 1937 - February 18, 2020

Service Location

Sacred Heart Catholic Church ~ Oscoda, Michigan


Memorial Mass at 11:00 am (gathering at 10:00 am) on Saturday, February 29, 2020 at Sacred Heart Catholic Church in Oscoda, Michigan

Obituary Notice

Patrick V. Demay, 82, of Oscoda, Michigan passed away Tuesday, February 18, 2020, at the Iosco County Medical Facility in Tawas City, Michigan surrounded by family.

Patrick is survived by his wife of 55 years Marianne (nee Vinzenz), sons Brian (Heather, Connor and Darcy) of Cincinnati, OH , Drew (Maribeth) of Greenbelt, MD and Peter (Tracey, Trevor and Kyle) of Plainfield, IL. Patrick is preceded in death by his parents, Sylvester (“Rudy”) Demay (DeMatio) and Irene (nee Gray) and sisters Diane and Cheryl.

Patrick was born in Detroit, Michigan, on April 12, 1937. A star athlete and salutatorian at St. Joseph High School in West Branch, he went on to graduate with honors from Central Michigan University, and earned his master’s degree in education administration from Michigan State University. While teaching at Lakenheath Air Force Base in England, Patrick met and married Marianne Vinzenz of Miltenberg, Germany.

Patrick taught in Detroit and Germany before settling down in Oscoda where he taught English, American Literature, and Bible Literature for 25 years at Oscoda High School and served as faculty sponsor of the yearbook and chess club. He was a lector and extraordinary minister at Sacred Heart Catholic Church. Patrick also sold real estate in Oscoda for many years. He taught at the American school in Kuwait City, Kuwait before retiring, at which point he and Marianne split time between Oscoda and Ellenton, Florida. He was a die-hard Detroit sports fan, enjoyed walking on the beach, and playing Euchre and chess.

A gathering of family and friends will be held at 10am on Saturday, February 29 at Sacred Heart Catholic Church in Oscoda, with a memorial mass at 11am, and luncheon to follow at the parish hall. Memorial contributions can be directed to Catholic Relief Services at or the Lewy Body Dementia Association at Funeral arrangements are being handled by Buresh Funeral Home of Oscoda. Online condolences may be offered at


Memorial contributions can be directed to Catholic Relief Services at or the Lewy Body Dementia Association at


St. Joseph Cemetery - West Branch, Michigan


Love and prayers to the entire Demay family. What an amazing man. So thankful to have had him in my life.
— Mary Studebaker
Peace to all of you as you mourn the loss of a great husband, father, and grandfather.
— Allie Oakley
When I think of my father, I can't imagine any quality or characteristic that could make him any better than he already was. One of the last things my brother and I said to him before he passed was that he was the best dad ever. Patrick Demay was a kind and generous man, supportive and encouraging of us, but also firm when he needed to be. He demonstrated to us what true love really is, in the way he treated our mother, right to the end. He was also a cool dad - shooting hoops with us in the driveway, playing catch in the back yard, taking us fishing or to the beach - he loved the water! He taught us to drive, and played cards and games with us, laughing at our jokes, as well as his own. That is what I will remember most about my dad, chuckling to my mother around the table at what someone said or did. He loved being around his family, and we loved him, and being with him. I honestly can't believe he's gone. I have not come to terms with it yet. All I know is I was lucky to have had the privilege of being his son.
— Brian Demay
Please accept my condolences for the Patric Demay family. May the peace of Lord surround your hearts and minds at this time and beyound. Love In Christ.
— Michelle Bogden
Very sorry to hear about Pat. I got to know him briefly, as a great gentleman and neighbor, to my mother and sister on Tangerine Ct. jcampbell
— jcampbell
My condolences to Marianne, Brian, Drew, Peter, and the rest of the Demay clan. When I was growing up in the Seventies, I remember Pat & Marianne coming to various DeMatio functions in West Branch, and we have often seen them in recent years as well. We used to visit Pat's mother, who was my Aunt Irene, and she always had a report about what "Pat, Marianne, and the boys" were up to; she was very proud of the family he and Marianne created. I particularly remember the Christmas card family photos with the five of you, everyone in a red sweater I believe. I was saddened to hear of Pat's decline in recent years. Pat was always soft-spoken, kind, and a real gentleman.
— Joe DeMatio
Our condolences to the family. Blessings to all.
— Ele and Chuck Hunt
Doug and I are deeply saddened by Mr. Demay’s passing. We both fondly recall him as our teacher, and just as fondly as a dear family friend to the entire Howse family. He will be missed, but his legacy lives on thru Mrs. Demay and his children and every student lucky enough to have had a class with him. Our hearts, our love and our prayers remain with the entire family.
— Kim and Doug Howse
My dad-in-law was an amazing man. Such a kind person, scholar, and athlete. He leaves behind such a legacy: A beautiful wife of many years, three successful sons, three daughters-in-law, and four grandchildren. I love him and will miss his kindness, dry sense of humor, and accepting me into his wonderful family as his first daughter-in-law. He was my second dad. I love you and miss you, Big Guy.
— Heather Harwood-Demay
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Demay family. It was our pleasure to have known Pat from our time at Don Jordan Real Estate. May the lord hold you in his hands and help your entire family through the loss of a wonderful man.
— Larry and Elaine Murphy
Condolences to all of Pat Demay's family.
— Mary Ellen Sappington Good
Pat was a few years old than I but I remember him as a star basketball player at St Joe School, West Branch.
— Helen Bryer
I was heartbroken to hear of the passing of Pat Demay. Pat was truly a kind and warm man with a gentle heart and soft spoken voice. My father Frans considered Pat his closest and most trusted friend having known each other since the early 1960's when both were living and working in England at Lakenheath AFB. While growing up in Oscoda he was known to me as "Uncle Pat", and he and "Aunt" Marianne were like my second parents. He always welcomed me into his home, included me in family activities, and some of my most cherished childhood memories are the times spent with the Demay family. My deepest condolences with much love and respect to Marianne, Brian, Drew, Pete and the entire extended Demay family.
— Pete (Gerard) Brandt

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